No Family Contact- Pregnant…?
My father didn’t have any contact with me until he married my step-mother, they visited for about 2 years.
I didn’t hear from his side of the family again until i turned 11.
The next time I hear from that side of the family I was 16.
They called 3 months after my biological grandfather killed himself to tell me that he was deceased.
My grandmother stayed in touch for awhile.After about 6 months- Nothing.Not a call from them, they don’t answer mine.
7 years later I get a call from my stepmother asking for me to come and visit my sister.
She divorced my father, my sister was adopted by her new dad.
My husband and I ( this side of my family declined coming to my wedding, they had the "decency" to call and tell me they couldn’t come because of a timeshare they had in Utah…)
contacted my father and invited him to lunch.
He never showed up.
We get a call 30 mins into our car ride home ( we lived in another state ) asking us to meet him at his hotel room.
We go, we talk.
I find out that he has been in and out of jail for meth charges.
Last may i see his mugshot on the news stating that he blew up a methlab and is sentenced to 3 years in prison.
I want to go see him, i’m 20 weeks pregnant and my child will have no grandfather ( they all have passed )
I loved my grandfather with all my heart and soul, I want my child to have that.
What do I do?
Force these people to be apart of my life..or forget them?
I would send your father a letter and tell him you are expecting. If he wants to be part of your child’s life then he will answer your letter. I know it’s hard. My father has never met any of his 6 grandchildren (not all mine) I would love my father to be a part of their lives. Please don’t stress yourself out at the thought of your father not being a grandfather.
Yikes.
Careful, Meth users will use and abuse in a BIG way. Careful, he could use this to use you.
Love your baby. Cry for what is lost to you. Make your husband your family. Love him. Make friends and make them you family. Turn to the Lord. He understands and will comfort you.
Spend some time building a relationship with your father by post. I don’t know what the laws are with regards the information the prison can give you about im. Like has he been in rehab has he started to accept his problem and move on. If he can prove to you that he has changed then visit him, but I would be vary careful about your new baby meeting him, because you wouldn’t want them feeling like you did if he lets them down.